Becoming Whole Again After Estrangement Ebook

When your adult child cuts contact, the world tilts. The silence is deafening. The love you gave feels lost somewhere between confusion, guilt, and endless questions.

This book is your way back to yourself.

In this compassionate and deeply validating guide, life coach Kandi Shand walks you through the tender, powerful process of healing after family estrangement. Building on her acclaimed book Understanding Estrangement from an Adult Child, this next volume moves beyond the “why” and into the “how” — how to face the pain without being consumed by it, how to reclaim your identity, and how to build a life that feels whole again.

You’ll learn how to:

• Recognize “clean pain” vs. “dirty pain” — and release the guilt that keeps you trapped.
• Soothe your nervous system and rebuild emotional safety after years of stress and silence.
• Find peace without reconciliation — and strength without denial.
• Rebuild identity and self-worth through gentle self-compassion, boundaries, and community.
• Hold hope wisely — without letting it hold you hostage.

Drawing from psychology, neuroscience, and years of coaching estranged parents, Shand offers both comfort and clarity. Through real stories, guided reflections, and research-based insight, Becoming Whole Again After Estrangement reminds you that your pain is not proof of failure — it’s evidence of love.

If you’re ready to stop living in the shadow of loss and begin the quiet, courageous work of healing, this book will meet you where you are — with empathy, wisdom, and hope.