"It gave me permission to grieve my living child."
"Finally, words for the silence I've carried."
"Each page felt like a gentle hand on my shoulder."

When the bond with your adult child breaks, the silence can feel unbearable.

This workbook follows the book chapter by chapter, leading you to truly understand what happened to you and why it wasn't your fault. 

Estrangement from a son or daughter is one of the most painful—and least understood—forms of grief. Unlike death or divorce, it carries no rituals of mourning, no casseroles at the door, no community support. Instead, parents are left with invisible wounds, unanswered questions, and a heavy silence that others often dismiss or judge.

This is one of the only books that explains the reasons behind the increasing number of estrangements between parents and adult children and why it is NOT your fault. This book takes a look at the strong factors influencing estrangement beyond the parent.

In Understanding Estrangement from an Adult Child, life coach Kandi offers both compassionate insight and practical guidance for parents living with this profound loss. Drawing on real stories, psychological research, and years of coaching families through estrangement, this book shines a light on the hidden grief millions silently endure.

Inside, you will find:

• Why estrangement happens—and the complex patterns behind the silence.

• How guilt, shame, and blame distort a parent’s identity—and how to release what isn’t yours to carry.

• The difference between boundaries and walls, and how both parents and children use them.

• What to do with broken traditions, empty chairs, and futures you imagined but will never see.

• How to face the pain honestly, without being consumed by it.

• Ways to reclaim your identity, rediscover joy, and build a meaningful life—even if reconciliation never comes.

Whether you initiated the distance or it was chosen for you, this book will remind you of one vital truth: estrangement is not the end of you. You are still whole, still worthy of love, and still capable of healing and hope.

Tender, deeply validating, and filled with tools for reflection, Understanding Estrangement from an Adult Child is more than a book—it is a companion for one of life’s hardest journeys.